And another thing that keeps slipping away from discussion the more we dig in this mystery is it’s been said that Spencer’s (and presumably Dillon, who is also a James) dad left when Spencer was six as we saw in the flashback, not pre his birth so Spencer would know what his father looked like before he left. He was asking for him in the flashback. Even if he’s been gone that long I don’t see him just forgetting what his face looked like.